The following was originally posted on RMNblog.org by Leland G. Spencer IV on July 3, 2012, and is used with permission of the Reconciling Ministries Network, a movement of United Methodist individuals, congregations, campus ministries, and other groups working for the full participation of all people in The United Methodist Church.
By Leland G. Spencer IV
Like many who follow this blog, I was excited to read about the success of folks in the Tennessee Conference, where an anti-bullying resolution was adopted that specifically included references to sexual orientation and gender identity. I suspect other conferences have done likewise this year (and maybe last year, too), and I applaud that good, important work.
I confess, though, that when I hear about bullying, Iím often confused to hear about it in such limited contexts. Bullying, especially as we hear about it in circles of LGBT activism, seems to be a phenomenon assumed to exist only in schools: hallways, playgrounds, locker rooms, classrooms. I donít doubt the prevalence of such bullying, even though I was fortunate for most of my education to avoid it. Iím not sure if I just attended an especially friendly school, but I never noticed or experienced much bullying. I didnít come out until college, but Iíve never been the epicenter of conventional masculinity. Even so, no one in middle or high school seemed to mind.
But I have experienced bullying, to be sure. Paradoxically, the cruelest things ever said or written about me have been uttered at General Conference and appear on the pages of the Book of Discipline. No one at my middle school ever suggested I should be stoned, but such a statement was reportedly made about LGBT people in conversations at General Conference. No high school classmate ever called me incompatible with Christian teaching, but the Discipline says I am. Thankfully, no one ever attacked me on a playground or in a locker room, but reading about General Conference was an act of violence on my body, mind, and spirit, and it left me in tears.
The bullying at General Conference that shamefully manages to be codified and sacralized in the pages of the Discipline enables and empowers bullies in local settings. In a conversation I had with an inexplicably popular lay speaker in Georgia, I shared my belief that anti-gay language in churches contributes to the suicides of LGBT people. He responded, ďThatís sad and all, but we have to follow the Discipline.Ē Notice that he didnít disagree with me, but instead flippantly subordinated human life to his unwavering allegiance to bigotry. A friend of mine recently told me that one United Methodist clergyperson in Georgia has preached against me by name, decrying me as a ďradical blogger,Ē evidently for my occasional (and arguably prosaic) entries here. All of this is much more hurtful than even the worst experience I can call to mind from my primary and secondary education.
Letís continue to be diligent about our response to bullying. It is central to the churchís call to love God and love our neighbors as ourselves. But let us not forget that the church itself is often a site of violence and an active participant in the shadows of every schoolyard taunt. As we call for an end to bullying, let us begin internally.